[extropy-chat] Death

[Jef Allbright]

Samantha -

You are heard, and you are not alone in dealing with your loss.

As you deal with the pain of loss, take strength in your ability to deal 
with it directly, without euphemism or false promise.  Clearly you are 
strong.

We share the sense of wrongness, that death need not be accepted as 
necessary, that the natural order is one of growth, and that we can work 
together to overcome obstacles, small and large, light and heavy, that 
stand in the way of our vision.

With sympathy and support,

- Jef


Samantha Atkins wrote:

> Some of you know that I have been caregiver to my long term friend  
> and roommate Michael who was terminally ill.  This morning he died.   
> I refuse to use the euphemisms like "he passed on" or "made his  
> transition" or any other such well-meaning clap-trap that seems so  
> goddamned empty right now.  One moment he was there, working so hard  
> simply to breathe, the next minute he wasn't and the long struggle  
> was over.  A moment before he answered some meaningless question I  
> asked.  A moment later - nothing.
>
> You know I have believed a lot of spiritual teachings in my life.  I  
> have experienced many things I can't easily explain away from the  
> materialistic scientific side.  Most of the beliefs I got over.  But  
> I still thought I would feel something, experience something when  
> Michael died - some touch of his "essence" saying goodbye,  
> something.  For what little that seems worth right now I always felt  
> most "psychically linked" to Michael.  We were very close.  I almost  
> married the guy twice.  But I felt nothing.  No jolt of energy in his  
> body at the end, nothing - nothing in the hours since, excepting  
> waves of grief and sadness alternating with feeling numb.  It was  
> like a switch simply turned off.
>
> Don't mind me.  I will be ok.  I am sorry to lay this out there as I  
> know many may be uncomfortable or feel I am laying something too  
> personal on their heads unfairly.  I am simply processing.  I have no  
> idea if it is right or wrong to write this or post it.  I don't  
> really care.  For a while now I will simply do what I do.
>
> - samantha
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