<html><head></head><body>I feel for you, Brent.<br><br>Maybe it is my conciliatory nature, but I think the best way to handle the mess is by showing dignity. Funerals, as they say, are for the living: they are both a chance to say goodbye, support each other, and to say truths. The most powerful truths are delivered not through oratory, but by behaving. So take the gist of your proposed prayer and polish it. Make it dignified, showing that a bereaved atheist can pray in a more heartfelt way than many a wordy believer.<br><br><br>Anders Sandberg, Future of Humanity Institute Philosophy Faculty of Oxford University</body></html>