<html><head><meta http-equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html charset=utf-8"></head><body style="word-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; -webkit-line-break: after-white-space;" class=""><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class=""><br class=""><div><blockquote type="cite" class=""><div class="">On Dec 9, 2014, at 11:11 PM, Rafal Smigrodzki <<a href="mailto:rafal.smigrodzki@gmail.com" class="">rafal.smigrodzki@gmail.com</a>> wrote:</div><br class="Apple-interchange-newline"><div class=""><span class="" style="font-family: Optima-Regular; float: none; display: inline !important;">For the vast majority of Americans, except the Amish and Quiverfull adherents, the number of offspring is not resource-constrained, and therefore there is no question of a trade-off between number and per-offspring parental investment that is the key to the K-r differentiation. </span></div></blockquote><div class=""><div class=""><span class="" style="font-family: Optima-Regular; float: none; display: inline !important;"><br class=""></span></div></div></div></div><div class="">Hahahahahahah! Really?! I dare you to join and Mommies and Me class in any urban center in America and then tell me that there is resource-contraint. (Count on $300 and 10 hours of your time per child for those lessons… no difference between one and three children? So glad you have an extra 30 hours and $900 lying around, because that’s just the start!) Do you have kids?! If you do, have you considered having twice the number you do now…what changes would that require you to make to your lifestyle? How about three times as many? Believe me, once you start adding up how much it costs to have six kids rather than two, and then compare trying to raise them in Hendersonville versus San Francisco, you would not say there is no difference between a K and an r strategy.</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">Here’s just a few of the expenses for typical K and r strategies:</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">
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Selection – Not valued; if done, by bus or car<o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class=""> </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><b class=""><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">Pregnancy</span></b><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">: <o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><font face="Times New Roman" size="1" class="">K
Selection - Planned, timed around school and career, Lamaze classes, yoga, </font><font face="Times New Roman" class=""><span style="font-size: 11px;" class="">acupuncture</span></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="1" class="">, Duala, pre-natal enrichment, possibly fertility medicine<o:p class=""></o:p></font></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">r
Selection – Accidental (even when wanted)<o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class=""> </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><b class=""><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">Baby Stuff</span></b><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">: <o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">K
Selection - new, brand-name strollers, cribs, nursery furniture, car
seats, bouncers, walkers, toys, boutique clothing<o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">r
Selection – used/hand-me-down or big box store strollers & car seats &
clothing<o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class=""> </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><b class=""><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">Pre-K Education</span></b><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">: <o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">K
Selection - Preschool, Mommy & Me classes, many, many enrichment toys and activities aimed at toddlers<o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">r
Selection – None<o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class=""> </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><b class=""><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">Elementary &
Secondary Education</span></b><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">: <o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">K
Selection - private school or charter school or excellent school district
(=more expensive house)<o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">r
Selection – public school or home schooling<o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class=""> </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><b class=""><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">Kid Stuff</span></b><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">: <o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">K
Selection - bikes, swing sets, books, sports equipment, computers, phones,
iPads, video games, toys, toys, toys<o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">r
Selection – used or cheaper toys, almost no electronic devices (even parents
might not have home computer)<o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class=""> </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><b class=""><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">Cultural Enrichment</span></b><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">:<o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">K
Selection - Museums, art, science & computer training, swim lessons, typing
lessons, music/dance lessons, sports practice, tutors, afterschool programs<o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">r
Selection – Church, extended family<o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class=""> </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><b class=""><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">College</span></b><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">: <o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">K
Selection - Parents pay<o:p class=""></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="margin-top: 0in; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-size:8.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman"" class="">r
Selection – Kids pay or don’t go <o:p class=""></o:p></span></p>
<!--EndFragment--></div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">And that’s just the tip of the iceberg. We have three kids; we want one more. We went over our budget with a fine toothed comb, asking, “Can we afford it? Can we make sure all the kids still get all the attention and investment they need to thrive if we have another brain to feed?” It’s not like getting another dog, where we just have to buy a few galleons of extra Kid Chow. We want this child to feel loved, even spoiled. We want our child to do more than survive, we want her to THRIVE. We are not just up against the edge of our resources, we are OVER the edge. I mean, sure, unless we want to move to Kansas and let my hubby work at Walmart while I watch the kids full time.</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">In addition to all the base costs of having a larger family (larger car, larger house), there are per child costs. For a good rule of thumb, assume each kid to an urban or suburban costs a $1000 a month. That means:</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">1 kid = $1000</div><div class="">2 kids = $2000</div><div class="">5 kids = $5000</div><div class="">etc.</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">Honestly, even in America, a family has to think twice before they take on another mostly debt of $1000 or more.</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">Of course, there are some things you can save money on, like car seats, because you have them already, but these savings aren’t as great as you’d think. There are not much savings per child in an urban/suburban environment because you are mostly paying for things per child, like day care or soccer shoes or math lessons. A rural or small town family with a stay at home mom simply doesn’t pay as many of those per child costs. More of their main costs are going to be in clothing or food, where buying in bulk allows some savings. However, their children are less likely to get dancing, skiing or computer programming lessons and less likely to go to college (and that’s per child too, of course) and less likely to become urban professionals. I.e. this is a perfect example of K versus r selection.</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div apple-content-edited="true" class="">
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