[extropy-chat] Effective relationships and self identity

[david ish shalom]

Jef Allbright"  wrote:  Might it be that the most effective relationship
structure in terms of cost/benefit might be the triad? I'm not talking about
polyamory or mriage ? trois but rather a stable, committed triadic
relationship between three individuals in any combination of genders.

Jef Allbright write: "I recognize that this would require individuals of
greater than average self-awareness to avoid destructive two-against-one
dynamics. I also recognize that nature settled on binary relationships in
most cases, but I think human culture represents a more highly developed
phase that may support and reward more highly developed relationship
structures at various scales.

The advantages I see are significantly increased synergies, built-in
tie-breaking, and possibly an inherent 3D structural stability similar to
that of a tetrahedron over a planar object.

Comments?"

Amazing what you say Jef, i am married to an Indian woman, I love here,a few
months ago i came to live in Israel and have new lover, my wife is supposed
to come soon to live with me, and i intend and hope to maintain a trio,
which i "naturally" there are some personal and social difficulties,
especially in conservative Jerusalem, yet some personal advantages, but your
claim is encouraging, will you elaborate please ?

secondly to the issue of self identity:  who wrote this text about Alice
changing life? i find it very illuminating to the issue of huge changes in
the self  connectedness  component, yet keeping the self  identity intact to
the effect that young Alice survive in old Alice, which strongly support our
ability to capture the identity critical information now, while our
attention is mainly diverted to our self transformation content. i will with
your permission integrate that text in my website
http://davidishalom1.googlepages.com/home
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