[extropy-chat] trio relationship, reply to Spike and Jef

[david ish shalom]

Spike your humor and sarcasm hold much truth known to me already, but this
is another experience of a "an experimenter" as myself, and I am 57 now,  but
I have clues to success and then we'll three info-resurrect ourselves :) ,
and love and compassion and moral,  can even be instantiated in three, and
so often is not found in pair, so wish me good luck and I surely do report
back. By the way, once I came across a nice book about  MD... etc"  BY
Spike, is it you ?:)

 Ja "naturally", but your wife will surely help with these.  She will have
surprisingly little difficulty finding two additional men, and a second job
for you to cover the increased expenses.

Honest to jahweh, David, I would be very surprised if the ladies go for this
notion.  Even really rich guys can seldom pull it off.  But if you work it
out, congratulations.  Do report back.  Even if not, do report back anyway.
We want to hear what your Indian wife hit you with when you suggested it.

spike







Jef Allbright"  wrote:
>> Might it be that the most effective
>> relationship structure in terms of cost/benefit might be the triad?
>> I'm not talking about polyamory or mriage ? trois but rather a
>> stable, committed triadic relationship between three individuals
>> in any combination of genders.
>
> Amazing what you say Jef, i am married to an Indian woman, I love
> here,a few months ago i came to live in Israel and have new lover,
> my wife is supposed to come soon to live with me, and i intend and
> hope to maintain a trio, which i "naturally" there are some personal
> and social difficulties,  especially in conservative Jerusalem, yet
> some personal advantages, but your claim is encouraging, will you
> elaborate please ?

David, when I suggested that triadic relationships might provide
inherent advantages, I hinted (strongly, I thought), but did not make
fully make explicit, that I thought this form might rise to predominance
within a more highly developed (and more highly competitive) culture
with individuals possessing a higher degree of awareness than the
present situation.
Jef, true, but personally I strive for higher awareness but only sometime
achieve it, yet in the future, I intend to permanently be there and we are
training ourselves to that future J

As Keith Henson mentioned, evolutionary psychology provides a good basis
for understanding much of the dynamics of human relationships at the
individual and group level. There are strong reasons why such
relationships are not stable within the social context.  [Note to Keith:
I studied Cosmidies and Toobey and others several years ago, but thanks
anyway for the suggestion.  ;-)]

In your particular case, I wish you luck maintaining your
relationship(s).  Perhaps you and your partners should read Heinlein for
inspiration.  *Note that a high degree of openess and honesty is
recommended, but rarely achieved over the course*." My reply: honesty and
high degree of openness is a must, yet it  sometimes should come gradually.



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