[ExI] Getting Laid

Ryan Rawson ryanobjc at gmail.com
Mon Dec 27 03:41:45 UTC 2010

That's thee nice thing about places like sf and nyc, everyone is weird :)

Also, drugs are a good way to deal with social issues. Alcohol being the
most commonly used.
On Dec 26, 2010 9:37 PM, "Alan Grimes" <agrimes at speakeasy.net> wrote:
> Ben Zaiboc wrote:
>> I've changed the subject line, as this has drifted quite a bit!
> It's also way OT... I'll leave it to you keep it on list or take it off.
>> Alan Grimes <agrimes at speakeasy.net> wrote:
>> Rubbish.
>> I have no real experience with on-line dating, so don't know
>> if it's better or worse than meeting people IRL, but I suspect it's
> I don't know how to meet people in real life at all. =( I don't know
> where to go. I've been to social situations but I never can seem to get
> into any conversations, I just tend to haunt the place for a while and
> then leave out of boredom and frustration. SL has the advantage that I
> know people are actually seeing the words I type until they ignore me.
> (if they're at their keyboards at all.
>> Most guys are bad at this sort of thing. Always have been, always will
be, but it
>> doesn't matter. You only need someone to like one thing about you. As
> long as you
>> don't have some kind of show-stopper, like terminal bad breath or a
> tendency to hit
>> people at random (both fixable), that one thing will win the lady. Or
> a different one.
>> Don't fixate too much on one person, get to know lots, and a mutual
> interest is bound
>> to emerge somewhere or other.
> Yeah, I guess I'm a bit to eclectic, into vacuum tube audio, and
> electric cars. (I'm currently trying to mount an AC-50 motor in a Mazda
> MX-6).
>>> I have a null feedback signal. There is no way to apply any
>>> kind of
>>> hill-climbing algorithm. It's still purely monte-carlo for
>>> me. =(
>> You're saying you can't tell whether you are pissing someone off or
interesting them?
>> Fine, use a different metric. If they touch you at less than the
> speed of sound, it's a good
>> thing. If they leave without a word, it's bad. There's your feedback.
> No, I'm saying that I don't meet any so therefore I get no feedback of
> any kind. =(
>>> That is functionally equivalent to saying "don't come
>>> back". =(
>> Only if you're going to be defeatist about it.
> I've wasted too much money on dating sites to feel otherwise.
>> Extropians don't do defeatism.
> It isn't like any technical problem. Technical problems can be
> addressed. Relationships, on the other hand, are notoriously illogical
> and do not yield to any reductionist approach.
> Actually, honestly, part of my problem is fear. I've been hesitant to
> really get involved myself because of the ph34r that she will hurt me if
> she can't accept the kinds of kinks I have. =\ Now that I've taken more
> of a "damn the torpedoes" attitude, I'm just frustrated. I'm really
> seeing the psychological toll a life of solitude is taking on me and I
> need to do something. It's just not the kind of problem I'm equipped to
> solve.
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