[ExI] sex again

[William Flynn Wallace]

There are no asexual people. Period.  Have I experimented with over 7
billion people?  Well, no, but....

It depends like anything else on how you define it.  I had a young man in
my college class who revealed to me that he and his new wife had sex once a
month and presumably wanted to know my opinion of that.  I assured him that
it was OK.  People have different sex drives, though I would certainly like
to have heard from his wife on the subject.  That's one way to define it -
very low sex drive, which might be a matter of hormones or even technique.
A woman virgin gets married, has a two minute man as a husband, never even
gets aroused (foreplay?  what's that?  Jewish joke - 30 minutes of begging,
told to me by a Jew). and decides that she is asexual.

A full 25% of married women has NEVER had an orgasm.  Men - go hide your
heads, or conversely, get them out of the sand.  Asexual or lousy mate?

Reduced sensation - it could be that an orgasm is not fireworks for
everyone.  "Is that all there is?  Is that all there is my friends, so keep
on dancing, break out the booze" - thanks Peggy Lee."

But zero sex drive?  No ability to get erections and arousal?  No orgasms
by any means (some take a vibrator and lots of time)?  Nah.  Don't believe
it.

bill w

On Sat, Dec 14, 2019 at 1:32 PM spike jones via extropy-chat <
extropy-chat at lists.extropy.org> wrote:

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> > *On Behalf Of *Adrian Tymes via extropy-chat
> *Subject:* Re: [ExI] sex again
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> On Sat, Dec 14, 2019 at 7:25 AM SR Ballard via extropy-chat <
> extropy-chat at lists.extropy.org> wrote:
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> I, myself, find myself somewhere “stuck in the middle”. Not trans enough
> for surgery to do any good, not cis enough to be comfortable. What is there
> to do for it?
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> >…Be what you are.  If neither a female nor a male body plan would suit
> you, then use what you've got (it's cheaper than and as effective as
> switching, plus you're already familiar with it) and try not to worry about
> gender-specific elements (save for any medical issues specific to whatever
> you've got).  Agender, asexual, and aromantic people exist…
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> We have made good progress just having a name for it.  Consider the
> scenario: Leisure Suit Larry is schmoozing someone at the office and can’t
> seem to get that he doesn’t do it for her.
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> She says: Save it Leisure.  I am asexual.
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> He: You are a sexual what?
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> She: Asexual, one word.  Google on it, come back and talk after you
> educate yourself.
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> She could even do this with a pleasant demeanor and nice smile, to
> maintain cordial relations at the office.  If Leisure starts schmoozing her
> again, she tells him he apparently went to a faulty source, try again.
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> Having a name for something helps a hundred ways.  Back in the old days
> before Aspergers, the socially awkward were mixed with those of us who like
> computers and math.  Now those two things can be differentiated because of
> the name.  Nerd and geek became titles to be earned.  We can get those and
> we automatically get the socially awkward component free.  It’s great.  I
> love modern times.
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